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Where can you go for Help?
Women’s Refuge in your community:
Our free and confidential services include a 24 hour phone line, emergency accommodation, information, home visits, advocacy/support at Police, Lawyers, Courts, WINZ etc. Education groups for women and children, referrals and information for support people and professionals
You do not have to stay in our safe house to receive our support.
STOP! THINK! PLAN!
STOP putting it off, hoping it will change
THINK about what you want out of life for you and your children
PLAN for a safe future
You are not alone. Help is available. You can live free from violence.
Kia kaha. Korero mai.

Supported by:
NCIWR
Ministry of Social Development
Marlborough District Council
Redwood Trust
Canterbury Community Trust
Internal Affairs
James and Mabel Thorburn Family Charitable Trust
If you would like to help Women’s Refuge you can donate food, household goods, linen, money or volunteer.

Community Office
PO Box 699, Blenheim
Phone 5779939
marlb_refuge@xtra.co.nz
24 Hour Crisis Line
0800 refuge (0800 733843)
www.womensrefuge.org.nz
www
(03) 3195559

Women’s Refuge, Sexual Assault
Resource Centre Marlborough Inc

Women’s Refuge,

“Breaking the cycle”

Is it violence ?
Does your partner or someone in your family/whanau.....
Put you down, constantly criticise or call you names?
Threaten to hurt you/kill themselves/report you/take your children away?
Follow and check up on you, or repeatedly email/call/txt you?
Get jealous or angry easily?
Not let you have any money or friends?
Force you to have sex or do degrading things?
Hit, choke, push, slap, burn, kick, you, shout at you, or throw things?
These are power and control tactics used by abusive people to control their partners or whanau/family members.
You are not alone. Help is available. You can live free from violence! Give us a call and come in for a chat.

YOU ARE NOT ALONE

One out of seven women It happens to women from all walks
has been assaulted by her of life, all income and educational
live-in Partner levels, in all religions and ethnic
groups

The Cycle of Violence

The cycle of violence can be useful in explaining why your partner can change from a
loving person at one time to a terrifying and forceful one at another. Each time the cycle is completed the violence becomes more intense and the cycle takes a shorter time to
complete, until phases three and four may be missed out completely.

1. Tension Building Phase
Increased tension, anger, blaming and arguing.
may include some physical violence,
e.g. slapping, threats

4. Honeymoon Phase
Having come so close to separation
you both cling; to each other for comfort.
Often a time of intense intimacy.

2. Explosion phase
Physical assault.
Or intense verbal/emotional abuse.

3. Remorse & Pursuit
Partner is often ashamed and promises it
will never happen again. You are
persuaded to believe this with gifts and
promises - or bullied back with threats
of more violence