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Family Services Directory: A directory of service providers that can help you and your family
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Government plan to stop domestic and sexual violence 'only a start' - Women's Refuge7 December 2021 - RNZ
The government has unveiled a 25-year plan to stop domestic and sexual violence, but those at the coal face says now is the time for the real mahi to ensure this is not just lip service.
The government's strategy promises to bring 10 agencies together for a collective response with grassroots organisations - something those on the front-line have long been advocating for. The government spends $1.5 billion to $2bn every year on the consequences of family and sexual violence.
But the Opposition says the government could be doing more immediately in response to the increased need due to Covid-19.
Domestic violence support service Shine spokesperson Rachel Kain said the human cost was far greater. "Some people may feel like they have to leave the community, leave their house, leave their home, they may be forced to leave their job and then [face] the impact of not having an income and not being surrounded by their friends and family," she said.
Last year, there were 165,000 family violence investigations recorded by police.
Young people exposed to such violence are twice as likely to attempt suicide.
Almost 168,000 sexual assault incidents happened in this country within 12 months - almost half of victims were between 15 and 29 years old.
Kain said the severity and complexity of cases had worsened since the start of the pandemic. "For example, one of the key tactics for family violence is isolation," she said. "Of course lockdown makes it worse, it assists that isolation."
Women are three times as likely as men to experience intimate partner violence and wāhine Māori are more likely to be impacted by violence than any other ethnicity. Minister for Family and Sexual Violence Marama Davidson said te Tiriti o Waitangi, Mātauranga Māori and whānau were central to the strategy - thanks to a tangata whenua advisory group.
Read full story HERE
Addressing the impacts of COVID-19 - Part II
Full article HERE
Active Dads Marlborough
Free activities aimed at Dads/Father figures and their children (aged up to 8 years) organised by Barnardos Marlborough.
If you have a child or children 8 years and under and want more information or to register in the activities please contact us on:
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Sharon Armstrong (Ngati Kahungunu) is a justice worker, author and public speaker. She has shared her experience of romance fraud in her book ‘Organised Deception’, launched in March 2018, to highlight the many issues that victims of fraud face.
She advocates for victims/survivors and their families who have been exploited in some way by scammers and is working to get legislative change made in Aotearoa to protect victims of this type of fraud.
By using her experience as an example for others, she hopes to show that anyone can overcome adversity. We just need time to rise above it and grow from the experience.
LIVE LINKS BELOW
How to register for a group:
Contact Paul Martin, Nelson Marlborough Health Suicide Prevention Coordinator:
Email: firstname.lastname@example.org or phone 03 548 2798 ext 5
For more information:
Talk to Paul (contact details above) or read about the programme here: https://www.skylight.org.nz/build-resilience/waves
4 Ways Parents Teach Kids that Consent Doesn’t Matter
Marlborough Youth Connect and get Support - Ages 12-24
She is Not Your Rehab
Throughout the COVID19 quarantine this last month, as domestic violence continues to spike all around the world, we have received hundreds of messages coming through to us from men who are really struggling.
We made one of these letters into THIS video:
PLEASE SHARE + SPREAD THE WORD
If you struggle with violence + you long to heal then I am here to hold space for you.
See Matt's TED Talk on our MEN's Page
Tools to Support Mental Wellbeing
Thinkladder is a New Zealand based startup working on providing wellness tools. Right now we have turned our attention to working on specific insights and practices for those suffering due to Covid19. So far we have contributions from over 50 mental wellness professionals around the world.
Thinkladder’s unique tools are designed to help you rewrite the script in your subconscious mind. When we replace our limiting beliefs it changes our old thought patterns which helps us feel better and do better. As we practice these new beliefs and actions with focused concentration and perseverance, they become our new normal.
Mentemia is an app that coaches mental wellbeing. Free to all New Zealanders.
We’ve all got mental health - how’s yours? So maybe you’ve got a business plan. A nutrition plan. A financial plan. A fitness plan. But what about a mental wellbeing plan?
With that in mind, the Mentemia journey began with a clear goal.
Everybody better, every day.
Rather than being the ambulance at the bottom of the cliff - Mentemia is packed with evidence-based ideas and tools to help you learn how to be well, and stay well. It helps you deal with the most common stressors we experience in the modern connected world today - poor sleep, anxiety and stress. These stressors, if left unattended, can significantly impact your quality of life at home and work.
With Mentemia, you’ll discover what things can help you feel more energised, more productive, and better equipped for whatever the world throws at you today.
Staying on Track
Our new Staying on Track course, along with the resources on this webpage, have been created to support New Zealanders with their mental and emotional wellbeing through this time of uncertainty.
This free online course introduces easy-to-use, practical strategies to cope with the stress and disruption of day-to-day life as an impact of COVID-19.
The course will teach you how to support your mental and emotional health through learning how to look after your worry and choose behaviours that will help you and your whānau stay on track.
A safe space to connect and support each other with self-care resources for our emotional wellbeing. In this unusual time, finding ways to manage our days at home will be really important. Our thoughts, actions and behaviours will help us get through. This community is made up of people like you as well as support workers, gathered in one place to walk alongside you and get through this together. Join us.
What to expect on Melon
Breaking Silence - Stuff interactive - Stories of hope and survival beyond domestic abuse
Everyone has the right to safety yet this is not the reality for 1 in 3 women in New Zealand. At some point in their life, they will experience physical or psychological abuse from an intimate partner.
Eight Episodes - Eight True Stories
Preventing and responding to family, whānau and sexual violence during COVID-19
Ngā Wai a Te Tūī Māori and Indigenous Research Centre and the New Zealand Family Violence Clearinghouse are partnering to provide information on preventing and responding to family, whānau and sexual violence during COVID-19
Experience in New Zealand and internationally has shown that family violence (including intimate partner violence, child abuse and elder abuse) and sexual violence can escalate during and after large-scale disasters or crises. The current COVID-19 pandemic also brings specific risks. Self-isolation can mean the risk of more severe violence from a partner, family member or other household member. Victims may also experience challenges to connecting with supportive people or accessing help in usual ways.
Specialist family violence and sexual violence services, NGOs, communities and government agencies are working together to provide information and services. Family violence and sexual violence services are essential services and will remain available at Alert Level 4, even if services need to be delivered in different ways. It is okay to ask for help if you or someone else is in danger. Helplines are available. Talk to friends, whānau and neighbours if you need support, or to see if they need help. If you think someone is in immediate danger of being harmed or may harm themselves, call the Police on 111.
Visit the WEBPAGE to find information on family violence, sexual violence and COVID-19 in one place. Some pages are still under construction. All are being regularly updated. We continue to add to them daily.
We are living through history - soooo . . .
Why not create at Covid 2020 Time Capsule to remind you of this time in history in years to come.
An activity for you and are Whanau - here is the PDF to download.
If you can't print it out copy the headings into your own special noteboard.
Three Methods of Conscious Breathing - to help with Stress & Anxiety.
The shadow family violence pandemic - and the link to animal abuse
By Bianka Atlas - Read Full Story HERE
Evidence shows domestic violence increases during and after economic crises and pandemics. There is increasing anecdotal evidence that while government-imposed lockdowns are helping to contain Covid-19, a "shadow pandemic" is proliferating.
Animals do not feature in recent reports of escalating domestic violence worldwide, despite frequently being victims of violence themselves. Companion animals provide vital emotional support and may be the only source of trusted companionship and love in an abusive relationship.
With half the world's population currently under some form of lockdown, Covid-19 presents additional risks to already-vulnerable humans and animals.
Physical distancing measures increase social isolation and victims may struggle to access support or get respite from violence outside of the home.
Lockdowns provide unique ways for abusers to exert control over victims, including withholding medical assistance or financial resources, and restricting access to food or essential sanitary items. There are even reports of abusers withholding soap or showers, and forbidding handwashing.
Statistics released by the New Zealand police showed a 20 percent spike in domestic violence cases on the first Sunday after the country entered level 4 lockdown. Women's Refuge has reported increased demand in more than 60 percent of its shelters. Services for men who fear they might commit abuse have also received increased calls during the lockdown.
'The Link' - pets in the context of domestic violence
The link between domestic violence and animal abuse is well established. An Australian study found 53 percent of women entering a shelter reported their pets had also been harmed. In Canada, a study revealed animal maltreatment was present in as many as 89 percent of domestic violence cases. Research indicates there is an increased risk of severe or fatal injury where domestic violence and animal abuse co-occur in a household. Abusers use animals as a tool of abuse. Acts of violence towards animals are commonly inflicted in the presence of human victims to control, punish, or intimidate.
Many women delay or refuse to leave an abusive relationship due to fears for the safety of animals left with the abuser and because most shelters cannot accommodate animals. A New Zealand survey of women whose pets were abused as part of domestic violence revealed that 53 percent delayed leaving a violent relationship out of fear for their pet's safety and 73 percent would have found it easier to leave if there was a shelter offering temporary accommodation for their pets.
CLICK HERE - Top tips for looking after mental health and wellbeing during COVID-19 and beyond.
Download a list of where to go for Mental Health help in Nelson/Marlborough HERE
Download a list of where to go for Mental Health help in Nelson/Marlborough HERE
Jackson Katz asks a very important question that gets at the root of why sexual abuse, rape and domestic abuse remain a problem: What's going on with men?
Why you should listen and share.
Jackson Katz is an educator, author, filmmaker and cultural theorist who is a pioneer in the fields of gender violence prevention education and media literacy. He is co-founder of Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP), which enlists men in the struggle to prevent men’s violence against women. Celebrating its 20th anniversary this year, MVP has become a widely used sexual and domestic violence prevention initiative in college and professional athletics across North America. Katz and his MVP colleagues have also worked extensively with schools, youth sports associations and community organizations, as well as with all major branches of the U.S. military.
Katz is the creator of popular educational videos including Tough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity. He is the author of The Macho Paradox: Why Some Men Hurt Women and How All Men Can Help and Leading Men: Presidential Campaigns and the Politics of Manhood. He has also appeared in several documentaries, including Hip Hop: Beyond Beats and Rhymes and MissRepresentation.
NZers Talking about Family Violence
The Male Room
The Male room is all about offering hope when you have little left of your own. We are here to help you make changes and to sort out the challenges and issues you maybe facing.
At the Male Room, we are against all violence towards men, women, and children. We work with families, and as such regardless of gender, race, orientation or creed, we will do our utmost to deliver the best possible service for the situation and individual and family.
Organizations dedicated to sexual and domestic violence:
International and online groups:
Source & More Detailed Information HERE
READING FOR RESILIENCE - BOOK LIST
Together with the Marlborough Libraries we’ve come up with another great list of books on Resilience! You can find it here:
READING FOR RESILIENCE.
Available from the Blenheim Library 😊