Barbershop movement urges abusive men to tackle traumatic pasts
The 'She is not your rehab' movement is empowering men to address domestic violence by healing from past traumas through honest conversations.
She Is Not Your Rehab was started by men from Christchurch barbershop My Father's Barbers.
The barbershop is known as a place "where men go to heal" and is now calling men to deal with their childhood pain and abuse, instead of projecting it onto their relationships.
Owner Matt Brown, an author, speaker and internationally-acclaimed barber, said his business had become a safe space where men could open up about the issues affecting them.
"This was a response to the men that sit in my chair and taking responsibility and healing ourselves, doing the work, whether it's getting help... talking to your friends or seeing a counsellor," Mr Brown said.
His clients ranged from boys to elderly men and many had experienced violent upbringings or felt the wounds of going through "the system and being in foster homes."
Matt Brown is an author, speaker and internationally-acclaimed barber
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Active Dads revived by Council Grant
A Marlborough dad group that had languished due to a lack of funding has made a comeback. A Marlborough District Council grant totalling more than $7000 will revive the group, according to Barnardos service manager Nikita Picugin. The group provided free educational and recreational events for fathers and father figures.
"There are a lot of opportunities for mums with mother's groups, but they're often during the work day," Picugin said.
The group organised "easy, fun and relaxed" day trips to the aquarium, organised tickets to watch the Tasman Makos play and provided parenting workshops. Previously, Active Dads had run programs such as a six-week program to upskill dads called 'Building Great Dads'.
Picugin said at it's heart, Active Dads was a way to build a platform for men to connect with their children and to create relationships between dads.
"There's a big range of ages, from just over 20 to grandparents. We encourage all male role models, from grandparents to caregivers, to give it a go." he said
Picugin said the group had several hundred Dads come to their planned events over the previous years. The aim is to have an event every four to six weeks.
Source: The Marlborough Express - www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/parenting/family-life/109998728/active-dads-revived-by-council-grant
0800 HEYBRO (439 276) is a new pilot for the Canterbury area, Launching June 5th 2018
This number is setup for men who feel they’re going to harm a loved one or whanau member.
We’re here to support 24/7 to listen and to help.
For more info and a video check out https://www.hewakatapu.org.nz/services/0800-hey-bro
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Liz Collyns has been appointed Project Coordinator for the MVIP
working primarily in the Men's Workstream.
Her contract is until mid December and one of her key tasks is to identify what services are available in Marlborough for men who want to improve their relationship with their families by stopping their violent behaviour.
If you have any knowledge about any such services or would like to contact her email: firstname.lastname@example.org
What does the #MeToo movement ask of men
What does the #MeToo movement ask of men, and how can men effectively respond? New Zealand violence prevention researcher Garth Baker sought to answer those questions as an advisor to the country’s White Ribbon campaign, part of an international men’s antiviolence movement founded in Canada in 1991. The goal was how to best align with #MeToo to prevent men’s family and sexual violence. The result is a comprehensive report accessible to anyone working to prevent men’s violence against women—or anyone who works with men to transform their gender behavior and identity. In this exclusive article for Voice Male, Baker highlights some of what he’s learned.
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Seven Tips To Help Men Speak Out in Support of #MeToo
As many writers pointed out, the dearth of visible and vocal male allies was disappointing because the movement to end violence will not succeed as a women’s movement alone. We cannot put an end to—or even move the needle on—discrimination, sexual harassment, and all forms of violence against women and girls, without men playing a big part in the solution. Only men can end men’s violence against women.
As leaders at The Good Men Project and the Joyful Heart Foundation, we are working together, and in collaboration with other organizations, to encourage men to use their influence and platforms to speak out about violence against women and girls. And yet, we are still learning how to engage men in this movement. It is painfully obvious that not enough men are voicing their support.
What many men do not understand but need to is that this isn’t about the way men treat other men. As we see in story after story after story, often men don’t treat women the same way they treat other men. And people often don’t act the same way in private as they do in public. We know this. It’s time to integrate that knowledge into our responses.
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